No Man Is An Island

Sex Offender in Federal Prison
Written By JohnDoeSO

Hello.  If you’re reading this, I welcome you to my very first blog covering a difficult and sensitive topic:  Child/Underage Pornography and Sex Offences.   My hope is that by sharing my thoughts on the topic, I can help those struggling to gain the courage to reach out and get the help that they need AND deserve.

Let me introduce myself.  My name is, for the purpose of this blog, John Doe SO.  The SO stands for Sex Offender.  I am a male between the ages of 30 and 40 and reside in the United States.  While I was not convicted or sentenced for any sex crimes, I was, for the period of four months, investigated for possession of underage pornography.  In the end, the powers that be decided not to take my case any further than the investigation.  I am a rare case.  A unicorn, if you will.

Recently, Dan Wise, better known as RDAP Dan, asked me to write a weekly blog about the subject of sex offenders, and more specifically, the crime of viewing, possessing, selling, trading, sending, receiving and/or creating child/underage pornography, which I will abbreviate as CP/UP in this blog.

Generally, I presume that there are five types of people who might be reading this blog.

First:  The generally curious individual.  You are a member of RDAP Dan’s page and have simply stumbled across this blog.  I welcome you and hope you find the information I have to share interesting and meaningful.

Second:  The ‘Oh SH*T what do I do?’ individual.  Perhaps you’ve gotten a little visit from two friendly FBI agents.  Perhaps those agents weren’t so friendly and entered your home looking for incriminating evidence.  Either way, your time hiding behind the comfort of the walls of your home and the screen of your computer is up.  Your secret is not a secret any longer, and you’re not sure where to turn right now.  If this is you, you ARE in the right place.  Know that there are people who want to work with you, help you, and show you the love you probably don’t think you deserve.  I’m not a very religious person, but I do believe that each person, no matter what they have done, is given chances throughout their life to redeem themselves and make a bad situation better, a hopeless situation a little more hopeful.  Keep your chin up and keep on reading!

Third: Your secret is still a secret, and you think that’s all about to change.  If you are addicted to UP/CP and you believe that you may be under investigation, this blog is for you, and the services RDAP Dan offers are for you too.  I’ll explain why in my next blog, but for now, keep reading and know you are in the right place.

Fourth:  You’re deep in the legal maze and awaiting resolution for you case.  You might have a state case, a federal case, or even both.  Either way, while you may not be imprisoned at the moment, it sure feels it.  You’re not alone.  I went through that too to some extent.  I hope that you’ve reached out to RDAP Dan and his team of professionals.  I hope you know there are things that you can and SHOULD be doing right now to prepare for the road ahead, whether that means sentencing, prison time, probation, or dismissal.

Fifth:  Last but certainly not least, the friends and family of someone who is going through one of the four scenarios I’ve touched on above.  These charges are serious and have lasting consequences for the person accused and the victim(s).  You may be mad.  You may be confused.  You may be embarrassed.  You may be having a hard time finding any love for this person due to the crimes they’re being accused of committing.   Rest assured, you’re entitled to all of those feelings and thoughts.  I hope this blog encourages you to not give up on this person.  I hope you can see the good with the bad, the light in the dark.  As hard as it may be to accept, you may be the one thing that is keeping this person afloat at this time.  If it’s true that we all need redemption, be that ray of hope, a listening ear, a voice of reason, a voice of encouragement through this challenging time.

If you had told me a year ago that I would be writing a blog on this subject, I wouldn’t have believed you.  Yet here I am folks!  Typing away!  One year ago my secret was just that.  A secret.  One year ago I had the job that I loved dearly.  One year ago, I had not yet explained to my friends and family that I was perhaps looking at a prison sentence lasting for years.  And one year ago, I had not met one of the most influential people in my life, Dan Wise, Prison Consultant, who, at my very lowest moment, gave me the courage to pick myself up, dust myself off, and better my situation.

In my next blog, I will discuss how I found myself in this situation.  If you or someone you love are dealing with crimes of this nature, please call Dan Wise at (509) 434-4695 or email him at

  • John Doe SO

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